tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post114496741088880926..comments2023-09-18T10:25:26.878-05:00Comments on A Shot in the Dark: Another Kind of AnniversarySandra Millerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16664436447708465809noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-85552232407075226042009-09-30T16:20:44.275-05:002009-09-30T16:20:44.275-05:00Thank you for writing. I work in the ED and often ...Thank you for writing. I work in the ED and often deal with women who are having symptoms of miscarriage, and are waiting for test results to say whether or not the baby is OK. Sometimes (frequently) we send them home saying it's OK so far, then the next day, or a week later find the baby hasn't survived. I feel so useless- unable to save their child, and just watching them cry with no Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-51365609915473094562009-08-20T19:49:32.464-05:002009-08-20T19:49:32.464-05:00My heart goes out to all women that have had to li...My heart goes out to all women that have had to live through such a tragic experience. I too have suffered the same fate. 4 months in and you think it's ok to spread your good news and start planning that baby shower only to hear two of the most heart wrenching words ever strung together in the english language, "Fetal Demise". I think about the baby I lost(it was 2yrs ago), I am 2Tamminoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-58096384401061478272007-02-07T19:11:00.000-06:002007-02-07T19:11:00.000-06:00Oh wow. It would have been so nice to have had tho...Oh wow. It would have been so nice to have had those ultrasound photographs.<br /><br />My fourth pregnancy was wonderful...no nausea, no fatigue, a lot of energy. So different from the other three! Until at 12 weeks I began bleeding and the ultrasound showed...nothing. I saw the black hole that was my uterus on the screen. They figured nothing had happened after five weeks. I had been Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14955312313903598555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-25020681255423788632007-02-06T13:31:00.000-06:002007-02-06T13:31:00.000-06:00What a devestating experience.
I will never know...What a devestating experience. <br /><br />I will never know that pain nor what to say in a situation like that.<br /><br />I do know that it must have been painful reliving it while you recounted it for us, and we appreciate you going through that. <br /><br />Your story has touched me so much, and if I face this again in the future I hope I now understand better a small part of what that must Vitum Medicinushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09994320714669547787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-75410000755412372062007-02-06T12:25:00.000-06:002007-02-06T12:25:00.000-06:00Thank you for sharing your story at Grand Rounds.Thank you for sharing your story at Grand Rounds.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08237756183010257014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145986610962186912006-04-25T12:36:00.000-05:002006-04-25T12:36:00.000-05:00Everyone-Thank you.Over the last week and a half, ...Everyone-<BR/><BR/>Thank you.<BR/><BR/>Over the last week and a half, I found myself thinking a lot about Sam. I'd never written about what happened, and suddenly felt like I really needed to-- maybe because this year, Sam would have been the same age Joseph was at the time of the loss... I don't know.<BR/><BR/>Regardless, it was both a painful and cathartic process. <BR/><BR/>Now, I debated Sandra Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16664436447708465809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145907864437356292006-04-24T14:44:00.000-05:002006-04-24T14:44:00.000-05:00I believe that Sam is in heaven with his older cou...I believe that Sam is in heaven with his older cousin Christopher.<BR/><BR/><BR/>MaryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145904171830284042006-04-24T13:42:00.000-05:002006-04-24T13:42:00.000-05:00Lots of hugs. I am so very sorry.XOXOXOXOXOLots of hugs. I am so very sorry.<BR/>XOXOXOXOXOLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05309494864584286470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145655517535872332006-04-21T16:38:00.000-05:002006-04-21T16:38:00.000-05:00Sandra (Hugs)))) Thinking of you-some anniversarie...Sandra (Hugs))))<BR/> Thinking of you-some anniversaries are of things we wish had never happened.HVShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05643496443110391440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145593249031231572006-04-20T23:20:00.000-05:002006-04-20T23:20:00.000-05:00Sandra, I'm so sorry. xoart-sweetSandra, <BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry. <BR/><BR/>xo<BR/><BR/>art-sweetart-sweethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07421342770323258531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145584799118724312006-04-20T20:59:00.000-05:002006-04-20T20:59:00.000-05:00I am so very sorry. There are no words. I have b...I am so very sorry. There are no words. I have been there, and my heart breaks for you. I'm praying that you will be comforted as you grieve.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145558534693327272006-04-20T13:42:00.000-05:002006-04-20T13:42:00.000-05:00I am so very sorry.I am so very sorry.Paigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04395914351465100969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145531563931454082006-04-20T06:12:00.000-05:002006-04-20T06:12:00.000-05:00I have no idea what it is like to lose a child, ha...I have no idea what it is like to lose a child, having never lost one, and having never even tried to get pregnant. But you made it real for me. I was waiting for the ultrasound results with you. Your writing was beautiful- intense. I'm so sorry for your loss. You had me crying too.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13564731989568599206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145521164671496752006-04-20T03:19:00.000-05:002006-04-20T03:19:00.000-05:00Sorry for the loss of your son. You have written ...Sorry for the loss of your son. You have written about him so vividly, his spirit is alive, in our thoughts, words and prayers as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145504337515443852006-04-19T22:38:00.000-05:002006-04-19T22:38:00.000-05:00Thinking of you :-)Thinking of you :-)Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10148339013263096171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145483460299477522006-04-19T16:51:00.000-05:002006-04-19T16:51:00.000-05:00I am so sorry.It is so inadiqute, but I do not kno...I am so sorry.<BR/>It is so inadiqute, but I do not know what else to say. Thank you for sharing. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult anniversary.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05938916720101925403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145483308143123552006-04-19T16:48:00.000-05:002006-04-19T16:48:00.000-05:00I am so sorry. I went through a late miscarriage a...I am so sorry. I went through a late miscarriage after two early ones and having to tell everyone was the hardest thing; after I passed the first trimester I'd felt safe to let people know. Sometimes life just isn't fair. Big hugs.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03517970132656406031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145471422853646002006-04-19T13:30:00.000-05:002006-04-19T13:30:00.000-05:00Sandra, this post hit home for me. I know what it...Sandra, this post hit home for me. I know what it's like to lose a pregnancy - you NEVER forget that child ... NEVER. I lost two babies, and I find myself wondering if it was a boy or a girl (I never found out), who they would have looked like .... I still feel like I missed out with those children - children I never got to hold in my arms, children I will never, ever see again. These babies Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08174978790549584487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145465042618233202006-04-19T11:44:00.000-05:002006-04-19T11:44:00.000-05:00Sandra, Thank you for sharing that.I'm very sorry ...Sandra, <BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing that.<BR/><BR/>I'm very sorry you went through that. We don't always understand the reasons that things happen, and they often seem like such bad things. But it was just not meant to be.<BR/><BR/>I know that doesn't make it feel any better. I don't know of anything I can say that will, or anything that I can say that hasn't already been said. <BR/><BR/>Scott K. Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06601851114190791084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145463115132445252006-04-19T11:11:00.000-05:002006-04-19T11:11:00.000-05:00Sandra-I wish you the best, warm thoughts during t...Sandra-<BR/>I wish you the best, warm thoughts during this emotional time. You wrote all that pain beautifully- if that makes sense. I know it's difficult, but sometimes it just feels better to get it out there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145462399786643602006-04-19T10:59:00.000-05:002006-04-19T10:59:00.000-05:00Sandra,I am so sorry for you. You and your family...Sandra,<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry for you. You and your family are in my thoughts.floreksahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11826898233141738110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145458477878336012006-04-19T09:54:00.000-05:002006-04-19T09:54:00.000-05:00Sandra,It is so obvious that your son got his grac...Sandra,<BR/><BR/>It is so obvious that your son got his grace from his mother.<BR/><BR/>I have no sufficient words but to tell you how very, very sorry I am. And how very much I admire you, more and more, each time you share more of your life with us.<BR/><BR/>There are some people that we meet who leave such an impression, such an indelible impact on our lives, that we know we'll remember that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145454775500589052006-04-19T08:52:00.000-05:002006-04-19T08:52:00.000-05:00{{{{hugs}}}}I lost a baby at 13 weeks. It's so ha...{{{{hugs}}}}<BR/>I lost a baby at 13 weeks. It's so hard to wrap up all those dreams and set them aside. It makes subsequent pregnancies full of gnawing anxiety instead of hopeful anticipation. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing your story.Major Bedheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669161302510096751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145453092026521242006-04-19T08:24:00.000-05:002006-04-19T08:24:00.000-05:00Sandra,Thank you for sharing your very personal an...Sandra,<BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing your very personal and emotional story. You and yours are in my thoughts.<BR/><BR/>tekTekakwithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09064530137595029216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11856564.post-1145452659689451112006-04-19T08:17:00.000-05:002006-04-19T08:17:00.000-05:00I couldn't say better what Nicole has already said...I couldn't say better what Nicole has already said.<BR/><BR/>You are in my thoughts. You guys always are.Kerri.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11463843830570716380noreply@blogger.com